Ever wondered if there was a secret to making change easier? Change is inevitable, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. While we can’t control what happens to us, we can control how we view it. So how should we approach change? Mindset, Resilience and Change Expert Josie Thomson Josie Thomson reveals her top 3 tips for overcoming obstacles and approaching change.
Thomson believes that while we can’t help what happens to us, we can choose how we react. “Change in life is inevitable, it’s actually how we learn, and we stretch and we grow. There are two ways we can approach change. We can either resist it because we didn’t choose it. Or we can embrace it because it perhaps presents an opportunity to grow.”
How do you respond to change? “Typically, our response to change is the first one. We usually see change as a negative.
When I talk about change to people, they usually think about what they’re giving up. They don’t usually say what am I gaining through this change. Always look for what you will ‘gain’ beyond the initial and automatic impression of loss that it may represent.”
“The brain’s default position is to go immediately to what we don’t want. Acknowledge that that’s just a program,” explained Thomson.
Changing your perspective is simple according to Thomson, she suggests asking yourself, “Okay so that’s what I don’t want. What does it mean in terms of what I do want?”
“The key is to seek out what you ‘want’ rather than focus your attention on what you ‘don’t want’. That refocus activity is simply all you need to do to get a grip on some clarity of thought to give you adaptive, wise options to actually step forward through the change. You can’t do that while you’re focusing on what you don’t want, explained Thomson.
Finally, Thomson recommends that we dig a little deeper. “Ask yourself: how can this change be enabling for me or my life? What am I being invited to learn?” says Thomson.