Choosing Joy


Choosing Joy By Tanya Doherty
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Choosing happiness = being in a positive flow and in the moment for no in particular reason as life is beautiful!

Being in a positive flow, is one of those moments in life where you are in the moment.

You’re experiencing the present moment fully, you can feel the wind blowing through your hair, and have a big smile on your face.

All of a sudden a thought pops into your head “I’m not sure how were going to pay the bills for next week” or “I wish these jeans would stop digging into my stomach” or you may even start an argument with someone.

A dark cloud has suddenly descended and those moments of joy are suddenly gone.

Most likely you haven’t even realised this has happened, but from my experience from working with women and knowing myself, its something we do on a consistent basis.

The first time I was aware of this, I had spent my Saturday at an inspiring seminar event, met some friends for dinner afterwards and had a great weekend overall.

On the Monday morning I went to see my naturopath, less really happy after telling her about my weekend, and realising we were making progress. For the 5-minute drive home I had the windows down, some music pumping and a huge smile of my face, live was good.

When I got home my husband was in and asked me a question- something along the lines of how was your appointment, and suddenly that grey cloud descended.

I suddenly got annoyed, and gave him a short answer. I spent the rest of the afternoon in a mood, and couldn’t pinpoint exactly what had caused such a change in events until I realised…

I had disrupted my own positive flow, as my ego didn’t want me to experience the joy and be in the present moment. When I’m fully experiencing the present moment, the ego can’t exist because it lives in the future.

The ego is the voice that talks to us – you know the one, you’re most likely listening to it now, as it narrates this article to you. It’s the voice that whispers your fears, keeps you awake at night, and pulls you from moments of joy with whispers of the future.

It’s the negative tirade that we put up with on a daily basis. Sometimes it’s nice to us if were lucky, but more often then not its not.

Can you imagine what life would be like if you didn’t listen to the ego? If those blissful moments of joy, happiness existed for long periods of time, without self doubt, worrying and fear?

It sounds amazing doesn’t it? Well it exists and its something we can have, it just takes awareness and commitment.

How can we make this happen?

By understanding that this voice isn’t the true version of us. The true version of ourselves is when we are experiencing true joy – those deep belly laughs, the smell of a freshly baked cake, moments when life seems like perfection, and are open to the present, and not living in the future.

Enter meditation. Meditation is one of the best tools to help silence your ego, clear the mind and to rest and restore.

There are different types of meditation, and I recommend trying a few to find what connects with you. If you are new to meditation there is a lot of guided meditations that can help you get in to that space.

Meditation isn’t a quick fix and its something that most likely your going to have to keep working on – but don’t give up – that’s what your ego wants you to do!

I would also suggest for a day writing down everything that your ego says to you – it’s so interesting what we put up with! If someone we loved said these things to us, there’s no way we would put up with them for long, so why is it ok to say it to ourselves?

Grab a notebook, and carry it around with you for a day. Every time you have a negative thought write it down, its important not to judge it, at the end of the day review it – you won’t believe what you have been saying to yourself, ask yourself, if one of your friends spoke to you like this, would you put up with it?

Probably not, but your talking to yourself like this all day long. Make a daily commitment to sit in silence using your breath as a guide for 5 minutes a day to start and progress from there.

About the Author

Tanya Doherty is a Holistic Personal Trainer, Wellbeing specialist, and Mind and Body transformation expert based in Bondi. This year Tanya is launching her website and new programs to help women and men make themselves a priority and create the vibrant, strong, glowing health they have dreamed of, and long lasting change, through small group personal training, and online programs.