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The 5 Stages of Grief

BY KATE CHORLEY

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Understanding the 5 Stages of Grief

By understanding the process of grief we can make sense of the variety of emotions we may be experiencing. Anyone who has experienced deep grief can relate to the ‘waves’ of emotion that can arise and then subside. Grieving is not linear and each stage may be felt at anytime until the final stage of acceptance is reached and maintained consistently.
 

The 5 Stages of Grief

 

Denial

As a response to the initial shock, the protective method of denial comes to the fore to buffer the hurt. We may even isolate ourselves from others to avoid the truth we do not want to face.
 

Anger

As we get to a point where we can no longer deny the truth, but are not ready to feel our hurt, we use anger to mask the pain we do not want to feel. Anger may be directed at the loved one, at yourself or even at God, especially if your partner has died.
 



 

Bargaining

In an attempt to make some semblance of being in control again we can bargain with ourselves, “if only I had been more loving”, or “If I hadn’t ignored him so much he wouldn’t have left me for someone else”, “maybe if I change she will take me back?”. This is our last line of defence before the dropping into the painful reality.
 

Depression

When we realise we are not able to fight the truth any longer we may simply withdraw from life, there is a sense of defeat or giving up. This withdrawal creates a space within in that is felt as a deep emptiness, which is depression.
 

Acceptance

In this final stage we begin to accept the truth, that our loved one has gone and will not be returning but realising that there is life after death so to speak. We commit back to life and start to feel ourselves again.

Click here for Kate’s article on how to deal with grief after a breakup or loss. .
Republished with permission.

About the Author

As one of Sydney’s most trusted life coach and personal counsellors, Kate Chorley has worked with hundreds of people from a diverse range of backgrounds, helping them overcome addictions including drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and gambling, achieve weight loss, overcome eating disorders and address anxiety, depression, anger management, relationship issues and phobias. Her personal history and experience gives her a unique understanding of the internal battles you are currently facing. Her background in natural therapies, combined with professional qualifications in Counselling allow her to provide a holistic approach to your healing and personal growth, ensuring that the progress you make is true.

For more information about Kate visit

www.katechorley.com.au/