Do you find you’re attracted to men who you just know are not good for you? Do you find yourself with men who do not treat you with the love and respect you know you deserve but don’t seem to get? Do you find yourself afraid of being single and alone? Do find that you continually settle for second best?
If this is you, then I want you to know there is another way.
Firstly, its important to understand why we accept less than what is truly okay. Many times we don’t feel great about ourselves, we may feel we are lacking in some way or just not good enough. We then treat ourselves and accept behaviour from others according to these beliefs, which adds to feelings of worthlessness.
Take time to feel into what you want in a relationship. How do you want to be treated? What qualities do you value in another person? In order to develop a great relationship with another it is really important to have a solid foundation from which to grow, one that you can actually start to build on even before you meet Mr. Right.
How is this possible? You need to start with yourself. By building an awesome relationship with you, treating yourself gently with love and kindness and by making self-loving choices and honouring your feelings and developing a daily rhythm and routine you can begin to work on how you feel about yourself, and improve your feelings of self-worth. You really do need to treat yourself in the way you expect to be treated by others. Then you will naturally accept no less.
“The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.”
It’s also a great exercise to reflect on your current relationships with family and friends. Do you feel free to express when and how you need to? Or do you find yourself holding back and then becoming resentful exhibiting passive aggressive type behaviour? How you behave with those closest to you is very revealing of how you see yourself and what it is you need to work on. The truth is we are all amazing and gorgeous beings but many times we make choices or behave in ways that do not align with this fact and therefore live in a way that is less than who we truly are. By taking time to work on your relationship with yourself you can begin to let go of what is not truly revealing the naturally joyful, vibrant and powerful you becoming a magnet to the same kind of energy in others.