Help! His Bad Habits Are Driving Me Crazy


Help! His Bad Habits Are Driving Me Crazy

Hi Katia,

I’ve been living with my man for a few months and his bad habits are driving me crazy. He’s so easy going and I love that about him but we’re polar opposites when it comes to housework; I’m anal and he’s a slob but whenever I ask him to clean up his mess he accuses me of nagging. I’m sick of cleaning up after him.


Hi Tracey,

Nothing beats the start of a relationship; everything seems perfect and your man can do no wrong… or so you think. Amazing what a difference time and moving in together can make. Fast forward a few months and he’s no longer Mr. Perfect and the very things you loved about him are now driving you crazy.

While there’s nothing wrong with being honest about what’s bothering you, nagging was voted as the number one bad habit most guys wish women would break, and for good reason*. Nothing kills the passion faster than nagging; after all you’re his lover, not his mother. Dating a carbon copy of your mother plants the seeds of resentment, can make him feel incompetent, and puts a lot of pressure on your relationship.

There’s no doubt that there are things that your partner will do that will annoy and frustrate you, most of which you can live with (but would rather live without), but constant nagging, arguing (or heavy sighing) isn’t likely to make him change his ways. In fact men often see your ‘constructive criticism’ as an insult.

Want to get him to do his bit? Work together to set up a roster system so that you both know who needs to do what and when. Let him chose which chores he wants to do and remember there’s nothing like a bit of er, encouragement to make a guy sit up and take notice. When he does make an effort, avoid the temptation to show him how it’s done and give him the acknowledgment (and perhaps a little reward) that he deserves.

Perhaps Confucius was right when he said; “A woman marries a man expecting him to change; a man marries a woman expecting her not to change; they are both wrong.” Relationships are about compromise, letting go of things that you can live with and accepting your partner (warts and all); after all we all have our bad habits!

Love Katia

About the Author

Katia Loisel is an internationally recognised dating, relationship and body language expert with over 19 years experience in the TV Industry. She is the co-author of the bestselling How To Get The Man/Woman You Want and has conducted a widely published five-year global study into dating and mating patterns.

Her broad knowledge and research on dating, relationships and nonverbal communication has made Katia a sought after media commentator, spokesperson and host. She has been interviewed over 800 times by media outlets worldwide. Her production credits include programme creation, development and production of various dating and relationship related TV shows for the Australian and US market and a global online ‘how to’ campaign for the dating and relationship market that generated over 12 million views.

Katia is also an international speaker and trainer and has designed and conducted over a hundred workshops and seminars and has worked with over 10,000 people. Katia works with companies, experts and individuals and is passionate about helping individuals and organisations to understand and improve their body language, relationships and ultimately their lives. She is a dynamic speaker and trainer; delighting, engaging, motivating and educating audiences. She loves what she does and it shows: her vibrant, vivacious, bubbly personality, spot on analysis, content and expertise making her a hit with the audiences and the media alike.

Katia Loisel is the Founder of The Love Destination, and is on a mission to empower and inspire, bringing more love and good news into the world.